|Happy birthday to the best dad in the world|
Yesterday was Brendan's birthday, a day we gratefully celebrated. Funnily enough it was the first year that either of us had ever cooked a meal on our own birthday and Bren did both lunch and dinner! With is immune system compromised at the moment, not allowing us to go out and celebrate, I think he was excited to be feeling well enough to man the BBQ again, and enjoyed the opportunity to fire her up [yes on crutches] and get the tongs out ...with Baden, his BBQ apprentice by his side, while Tyz made the salad for Lunch. Both Birthday Lunch and dinner became a family affair with us all mucking in. Tyz and Bades also took charge of the birthday cake, I know I'm their mum, but I have to say it was pretty impressive :) and so were the birthday menu's!
|birthday cake and lunch :)|
The BBQ Salt and Pepper & Sweet Chili King Prawns at lunch were almost outdone by the BBQ Lamb Roast at dinner, I think the big fella had had quite a good birthday no thanks to my culinary efforts...all I contributed were the baked veg...but they were good.
|Ryders Club Lemonade Stand Lucas Lemonade Stand|
Now, not long after that first Lemonade Stand Tyz and Bades stayed at their cousins Luca & Tyler's house and they also had a Lemonade Stand. When Aunty Deb dropped the kids back home, Luca proudly told us that she wanted Uncle Bren to have the money they had made, to buy something special. Even then the penny didn't drop, that these kids were all trying to help Brendan and I in the best way they could.
I now have a much stronger belief that kids understand plenty when it comes to what is happening within their family, and the world around them. They are also very good at finding ways to cope with what's happening. One way of doing that in situations like my family have found ourselves in, is for them to feel like they're helping. They don't want us to hide things from them, they want us to allow them to participate in this part of their life as much as any other part. They want us to tell them what's going on [in an age appropriate way] so that they don't have to guess. That way they know what is happening, can be assured that everything is OK, and they can get on with the everyday fun of hanging out with friends, doing the normal things kids do and helping when and where they can.
I would like to say thank you to Lee & Nigel and Deb & Andy for going to the trouble of helping these wonderful kids feel that they were doing something really constructive to help Brendan and I. And without a doubt they did, it also helped us to see just how well our two amazing kids do understand whats happening at the moment, and how allowing them to help is a very important way of helping them to cope with having a family member with cancer.
PS: You guys all have awesome kids :)